I am a cheater.
I cheat on women.
See I can't lie anymore. All men Cheat.
At least this is what all women tell me. :)
An interesting conversation with a dear friend got me thinking. What's so bad about Cheating? or having affairs?
Cue montage of crying men, women and children, stuff being destroyed, fires, sad songs, and that horrible feeling that is having your world being destroyed.
K...maybe it is bad.
Still, why do we do it?
Apparently 85% of men will cheat on there significant other.
Most men can't keep a 85 average in school, but we are geniuses when it comes to cheating.
A thought
Don't Men cheat on women with other women? Hmmmmmmm (A question to my Gay brothers, When you are in a relationship and you "cheat" do you call it "cheating"? Or are you only having sex? Cuz as a strait man I always tell myself it's only sex, I don't love her.)
Ladies, did you think about what I just wrote before my Question to my Gay brothers?
Let me say it again.
Don't Men cheat on Women with other Women?
85% is a high number so you can't tell me that only 5% of women cheat. If that was the case, then they'd be professional cheaters. They would write on there T4, " I'm a professional Cheater, I ruin marriages, and relationships. I made 50,000 this year doing it, and here are my receipts."
Seriously, lets say that 50% of women cheat. That would mean that women cheat almost as much a men. They would have to or else how could a man ever actually cheat on a woman?
When a woman tells me that all men cheat or would cheat if given the chance. I always feel the need to say, "No you're wrong!"
But then a small voice that sound like and evil English noblemen goes "Quiet you fool, this will help you get away with it!!"
And it will.
I'm already expected to cheat. What chance do I have of being a faithful? Women want us to cheat...with them.
Picture this
Lounge.
Two men chatting.
Two women chatting at another table.
My friend notices them looking at us. After severe coxing from my homie, cuz I am shy, we go to chat.
We chat. I tell her I have a Girlfriend. We flirt. She is seeing someone. We flirt. We feel the Funk. We drink. We chat. I tell myself it's all good because I have a girlfriend that I love and I would NEVER cheat on her. She touches me on the shoulder. We talk about our relationships. We get close. we get closer. She goes I thought you said you have a girlfriend. I go yes. WE still end up kissing?
I am a jerk.
But she knew exactly what she was doing.
I am an asshole. I could have left.
But she knew EXACTLY what she was doing. (This woman could also have a boyfriend. I have seen this)
Now it was just a kiss, but it could have been more.
See what I did just there? Now if I truly had done that I am a jerk and asshole, but it takes two to tango. I have felt bad in the past, because some men lie, and many women never know the entire truth before it's to late. However I have no sympathy for the Woman who knows what she is doing. If a man gets no excuses neither should you.
No not all women do this because some women are very content with just knowing they can get a man.
How about the emotional cheaters?
"God, why do you get so mad when I mention him or her? we are just friends?"
Listen,if you have problems in your relationships, TALK TO EACH OTHER. I can not stress this. Twice in my life I have gotten close to women who have boyfriends, and both times it has been when there relationships have become stagnant and boring. No nothing physical ever happened, but they took affection from me.
Copious amounts of Affection.
"Munish how come there aren't more guys like you?" (Bull)
"Munish you are going to make some girl so happy!" (Yes, but I will also annoy her, bug her, and piss her off. I'm just new to you)
It doesn't bug me anymore, because I don't let it happen. I bite my tongue. Why?
Because it's none of my business.
Now I want to take the time to say. Everyone likes to be noticed. To be complemented. All women want to feel attractive. (If you have a wife or a girlfriend be happy when she gets hit on or complemented. It means you done did good.) Men also enjoy it when the get complemented. However, it's after the complements, where things get Grey.
I know what your thinking.
Munish you just think we are all bad people, why don't we not flirt either, coupe ourselves up in our living room with our companion and never go out. Not look at any men or women when we go out. Maybe we should open up a conversation by saying, " Hi, I'm married/in a relationship and I don't cheat. If you wish to pitch wooh at me please be advised that it is appreciated, but nothing will come of this."
Ummmmm to those people I say relax, and maybe you are a bad person. (jokes)
What I'm saying is that blame can not be put on one sex.
At least not anymore.
I haven't cheated on a girlfriend nor do I ever have any intention to. I especially will not take it up when I get married.
I don't hate men and women who cheat, but I do hate cheating.
I cheated on a test once, and I still remember it. I cheated because I didn't care and that's what gets me. That I didn't care. To me that's what cheating means. It means you don't care. You don't care about yourself or the person you are hurting. You can get a way with it. You can say you didn't know any better. You can do it once and realize it's a mistake and never do it again. But you do have to live with yourself, and contrary to what many people think this life is long. Yes you will be forgiven, and hopefully you will learn, but you will also have to live with it. The negative energy you bring into the world is also what you have to end up dealing with. So in the end I guess it is true, Cheaters never win.
